In my article “What People Falsely Believe About Destiny“, I argue that the entire concept of destiny is not only outdated, but potentially dangerous. Because it ultimately takes away more or less of our personal responsibility.
I’d hereby like to elaborate on the inherent flaw of the concept of destiny.
There’s a huge correlation between what I call non-fidence and having somewhat of an obsession with the idea that there are manifold powers beyond our control. And ultimately that life is something that happens to us, rather than something we create ourselves.
However, I’ve also seen the exact opposite attitude towards an analogous belief.
Not only having done research into confidence and self-development for years, but also being an entrepreneur, I’m highly aware of the vast amounts of self-development in the world of entrepreneurship.
Hell, if you’re an entrepreneur, you can’t NOT cultivate confidence and self-development. There’s not ONE single successful entrepreneur out there who has low confidence and/or self-esteem.
But here’s the funny thing. Considering the above, one could, then, very well expect entrepreneurs to think the exact opposite of non-fidents. But I’ve found that there’s a clear tendency amongst entrepreneurs to talk about destiny.
Or, maybe more accurately, about how something is “meant” to happen or “meant” to be.
The difference, of course, is that people with higher confidence often see these alleged instances of destiny as favorable rather than detrimental towards them, and to take considerably more action towards their goals rather than let themselves be overwhelmed and paralyzed.
However, it’s the exact same idea of destiny at play. And no matter how high or low one’s confidence might be, the idea is nothing but superstitious BS.
There’s a perfectly good theory surrounding how we consider our internal forces vs. the world’s external forces in our lives. It’s called the theory of the locus of control. And it basically says that we can attribute autonomous control in a certain degree towards both external circumstances, and towards internal abilities.
Why, then, would we even need to talk about destiny? In my original article, I point towards pre-scientific, outdated ideas of higher powers. And, towards how the idea of destiny has simply become ingrained in our common sayings.
The problem with sayings like, e.g, “There’s a reason for everything” is that they’re essentially not saying anything. Because the very word ‘reason’ is ambiguous.
Indeed, to what extent does any instance of alleged ‘reason’ pertain to something internal or external? And how would anyone go about demonstrating this??
There’s no manual other than what one might choose to believe.
Listen: Stuff happens. It’s what we choose to take away from it — or, indeed, not to — that gives said stuff its meaning.
Where was all the alleged “meaning” one billion years ago? Take away humankind from the Earth, and show me what meaning is. (Optionally, include all the animals.)
Nothing has any inherent meaning apart from what we apply to it. And whatever meaning we do apply speaks volumes of who we are.
“But wait a minute! If entrepreneurs tend to believe that things happen for them, isn’t that simply a convenient belief that I could just totally adapt to become successful?”
Well, it probably couldn’t hurt. But that doesn’t mean that things DO happen “for” you.
It’s all a matter of how we see the possibilities for growth and learning around us. And you don’t need to believe in destiny to do that.
Raise your awareness. Confidence will follow.