If they can do it, so can I!
That’s what I thought when I started my education and the tutors welcomed us.
Those were cool people. Full of energy and passion for what they did. And as you’ve probably noticed, when something is inspiring, there’s always a certain element of passion involved.
But they were regular people. Like you and me. Like the rest of us. In their mid-20’s.
And they just happened to have found their right little spot in life.
… Which I hadn’t, and which I didn’t until much later.
But that’s beside the point here. Which is, if regular people can do something, so can I.
Of course, we all know another, more popular version of this phrase:
“If I can do it, so can you!”
What’s the problem with this one?
It’s that whoever says it is projecting his or her own standards out onto others.
Which can be — and more often than not IS — a sign of confidence in that person’s skills. It’s meant as a “you can do it”-kinda mini-peptalk. A swift, loving kick in the derrière of someone who we’d like to see succeeding.
But when we say something like that to other people, we’re rarely in alignment with what’s going on for them. We rarely have a clear picture of how they perceive their own abilities and standards.
Motivation, therefore, shouldn’t come from someone else. It needs to come from oneself. From within.
Otherwise, it’s not a matter if being inspired to take action, rather than feeling intimidated and overwhelmed.
Something along the lines of, “I could NEVER be like that guy; he’s WAY more energetic and go-getting than I’d feel comfortable being.”
So if there’s one piece of learning, one single sentence, that I’d like you to take away from me, it’s this.
If they can do it, so can I.
Because it’s that exact same little idea that I got when I set out to become an entrepreneur. When I started following thought-leaders. Reading blogs. Subscribing to newsletters.
Because what I noticed was that the people I was following weren’t superhuman in any way.
They had quirks; they had flaws. Some seemed a little socially awkward. Some seemed to have noticeably low self-awareness in certain areas.
Some said and did things which pretty much contradicted certain tenets of that self-development which is so important and prevalent amongst entrepreneurs.
They were regular people. — Who’d just happened to have found their right little spot in life.
… Which, of course, involved having acquired the abilities to set up a successful online business.
But still. Setting up an online business isn’t something magical and esoteric. It’s a learnable skill. And if they can do it, so can I damn well do it.
Because if it’s important enough, there’s nothing that regular people can do that one can’t learn and do oneself.