To increase your self-belief is, by definition, to increase your confidence.
Confidence is about believing in yourself. In fact, that’s pretty much the definition right there.
And I submit that we need confidence to be successful in whatever we’re doing. Because otherwise, you’re not gonna be able to accomplish very much worthy of mention in this one life of yours.
If you think that you’ve heard that before, it’s probably because people have found this to be true time and time again. So, how can you increase your self-belief, then?
Well, whatever you’re doing, there’s three things you should ask yourself…:
1. How does this align with your values?
Because, if it doesn’t really, then that probably has something to do with it. Because our confidence is always in a dialectic relationship with our commitment to whatever it is we’re doing.
Therefore, your level of commitment at any given time is largely a product of how whatever it is you’re doing is aligned with your values. If it’s not, you’re not gonna be engaged with it.
And if you’re not engaged with it, it’s not really gonna matter to you. And if it doesn’t really matter to you, how do you think your level of confidence is gonna be like?
Not exactly very high, yeah?
And I’m not talking about everyday routines that you can do perfectly well without necessarily being passionate about it, like doing the dishes or checking your email. I’m talking about bigger, ongoing endeavors here.
So whatever your current job or project is, make sure to ask yourself how it align with your values. If it doesn’t align with your values, you might wanna reconsider your engagement with it.
But if it does, move on to question number two…:
2. What do you need to believe in this even more?
Is it knowledge?
If yes, exactly what kind of knowledge?
Is it skills?
If yes, which skills do you need to improve?
Is it habits?
If yes, what specific habits would be good to cultivate?
Or is there something you need to cut out of your life?
Question number 3 will probably come as no surprise:
3. With the above in mind, what specific actions can you take right now to increase your self-belief?
– If there’s a book you need to read, what’s stopping you from finding it on Amazon right now?
– If there’s some specific info you need, what’s stopping you from looking it up on Wikipedia right now?
– And if there’s a certain skill you need to develop, what’s stopping you from googling any courses or meetups near you right now?
You have all the information in the world at your fingertips. I mean, chances are, if you’re reading this, you’re online, yeah?
There’s ALWAYS, NECESSARILY something you can do to increase your self-belief. And everything else you might be telling yourself is exactly just that:
Something you’re telling yourself.
It’s only true if you keep on insisting upon being right about it. And where does that leave you?
Yeah, I’ll just answer that one: It leaves you in a place where you don’t have to take action because you’re allowing yourself to feel confused and overwhelmed instead of focused and empowered.
And believe me: That’s not exactly an attitude that’s gonna have you believing in yourself anytime soon.
In the immortal words of Steve Perry:
Don’t stop believin’.