So, right before this New Year’s, I talked about why your New Year’s resolutions don’t work. Remember?
Well, how are they working out for you so far?
The reason I’m asking is not to make you feel guilty or anything, but because by now we’ve exceeded the ‘cut-off date’, as it were.
I’ve seen articles refer to Jan. 23rd as the day where most people will have decided that their New Year’s resolutions don’t work. Tony Robbins refers to Jan. 15th as the cut-off date. And in Britain, apparently, people already give up by Jan. 10th.
If I were to judge from how many people were suddenly at the local gym on the last day of 2017, and how that number has kinda settled down to not much more than the usual by now, then yes, this cut-off date is totally a thing.
Why do people do this?
Well, like we talked about last time, it might be because they’re taking on too much; because it’s not really that important to them; and/or because they lack clarity, accountability, and a certain ‘deadline’ for completion.
Now, I know this might scare away a lot of people. But it’s exactly when those things are in place that we reach our goals. And this is exactly why most people don’t reach their goals.
Think about it. How many people do you know that go about setting goals like this?
Exactly: It’s probably about the same percentage of people you know as the percentage of the entire population who are actually doing so.
This is the thing about us humans: Whether we like it or not, we tend to conform. We’re social animals; it’s in our genes to avoid social stigma. Sure, some of us like to stand out in certain respects, but like I always say, the average is average by necessity.
(Hell, it’s the law of averages that says so in the first place.)
So, we’ve all grown accustomed to the people around us making New Year’s resolutions only to give up on them sometime during January.
If a lot of people around you are making New Year’s resolutions, there’s probably something to it, yeah? So then, why wouldn’t we do the same thing?
And if they fail at keeping theirs, you wouldn’t look too bad if you failed at keeping yours, right?
Making New Year’s resolutions for the sake of making them probably isn’t a good way to make permanent changes to your life.
Me, I’ve long stopped making ‘em. Hell, even MY New Year’s resolutions don’t work.
And probably for the above reason:
Don’t make New Year’s resolutions because everyone else are doing it.
Make goals in life. Goals that are more important to you than anything else.
Because if you treat something like that for long enough, it WILL grow and prosper. By the same necessity that dictates why the majority fails at having THEIR goals grow and prosper.